Very sad, I will write the full story when I come to my senses

So sorry to hear that.  You have my condolences.

Very sorry to hear that... thats horrible man. We are hear for you if you need to vent or just have someone to hear you out.

Sorry to hear that. Hope you get on top again.

I feel so sorry for you. Losing a loved one is a terrible experience.

sincere condolences.
Anything sudden like that is always worse than something you know is coming.
Anything we can do, just let us know.
Sometimes it just helps to talk to someone random. 

my condolences, it's never easy to lay a loved one to rest.

So horrible. Take your time with things like this and remember to look after yourself.

    So sorry my friend.  We'll be here if you need to vent. 

That is dreadful news; sending prayers for you friend.
All will be well.   

Sorry to hear that.

Greetings Vin,

the sadness is right.

Don't push yourself, but when you are ready - writing about how you feel should help healing.

Be kind to yourself and good luck.

Cheers, Zud.

Thank you for your kind words of support, it helps a lot now, even at a distance.

I could have prevented this ... This should not have happened, this tragic incident taught me to listen to my intuition, if I feel something wrong, leave immediately, and many people who know something say about this, you need to listen to your inner voice , I did the opposite, I thought that if I feel something wrong, it just seems to me.

When emotions returned to normal, I can start a full story with all the details and nuances, I will start with a video from the scene of the tragedy, and the state of the car that was photographed from the parking lot.

I could stop this... :'(

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Ruined car

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My thoughts are with you Vin.

Please don't make my mistakes.
If you feel something is wrong, do as your intuition tells you.

   So sorry about your uncle.  He was a great man.  Such a terrible tragedy. 

It sounds like he got a lot of living into the years he had and that you and others have good memories of him. He looks happy and proud in the pictures you've shared. I am sorry for you that he passed but happy that he seemed to fill his years so well.

Thanks for the kind words!


Please, take care of dear people as much as possible, they are not with us forever, unfortunately.

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Don't blame yourself. Who's to say if you took a taxi, the taxi driver wouldn't crash? You can't think of what could have happened because nobody knows and it doesn't matter now anyway. You could drive yourself crazy with "What if?" The only person to blame is the drunk driver. He made his choice, these are the results and I hope he faces the consequences. What you need to focus on is yourself and your girlfriend. I didn't realise before that you were also involved in the crash. That can be a horrible thing to live with and it can have a long effect far past any physical injuries. Be kind to yourself.

Thanks, Kick. You are right, I fell into despair, I must live on

This is not your fault SV. Dont let those dark feelings lie to you. We all second guess ourselves but in this case especially this was NOT your fault. Nor was it your girlfriends and certainly not your Uncles. It is only the fault of the man driving. He made a bad decision and others suffered for it. I am sorry you have to go through this. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Thank you very much, Morphy.

I really believe and hope he feels good there now, better than where he finished his earthly way

It's been a week since it happened

Alcohol and motor vehicles do not mix.

My sisters partner had a couple beers and went to take the motorbike he'd just finished renovating to show my sister, where she worked.
She drove past the accident on her way back from work, without knowing.
It was fathers day and he was the only real dad my nieces had known. 
Jimmy didn't cause anyone else direct harm, just killed himself.

But it did not diminish the heartache and misery his death caused. I loved that guy.
Some of my best memories are making stuff with him - he'd always save a big project for when I went over to stay.
It happend about 10 years ago and i haven't been able to go to canada since.
I'm not sure I ever will.

As morphy says, the only person at fault here is the bastard who got drunk and drove the car.

Your uncle sounds like a truly fine man - and I can see how he would fit perfectly into the mallorcan culture.

Alcohol is the worst drug humans habitually use - simply because it's universally socially accepted.

Looking at that car - it's a pure miracle Any of you got out of that alive

All i can say is remember everything you can about your uncle's life.

Death is transient and the last and least part of anyone's life.
Hold the person in your heart and always in your thoughts and a part of them will always live with you.

Memories are forever, life - unfortunately - is all to brief.


And always wear your damn seatbelt !

Thank you Curious Aardvark.
How many people die from alcohol every year counts in the millions. How many crimes are committed under alcohol, most of the crimes are all the work of alcohol. The coronavirus pales in comparison to alcohol and its harms.

    I was a traffic accident investigator for the army for three years in Seoul, Korea and miserable hell hole Ft. Campbell, Kentucky.  Most of the really bad accidents I did were in Korea.  I can't think of one accident involving fatalities or serious injuries where alcohol wasn't involved.  At every scene there was always that smell. 
    I have/had an ex brother in law, Cliff.  He was a heavy drinker.  He destroyed more cars in drunk driving accidents and incidents than I'll ever own.  He would pay his fines, do his six months restriction, and be back out on the road, time after time.  Drunk driving laws are much to lenient, at least here in America.  Drunk driving needs to be treated as the serious crime that it is.  Second time offenders should lose their license forever, pay a really hefty fine, and do hard time.

Alcohol Supports Artificial Tension in Society

So that there was some kind of anxiety and vigilance. I noticed after the coronavirus epidemic, people began to behave no longer adequately. When I was in Mallorca in 2019, there weren't so many crowds of noisy brutal drinking people, it was much less. Not in such a pronounced form, isolation made people antisocial

Dear people, thank you for being you.  Your warm advice and words warm me to this day.  I think about my uncle every day.  Sometimes I cry, I miss him very much.  He comes to me in my dreams.  I love him.  I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for supporting me at a difficult time!  Thank you!

Even though it's been eight months, I can't believe he's gone.  When I lost my grandfather, I could not come to my senses for two years, it is very difficult for me to endure the departure from people's lives.  Such is our life. Everyone experiences life's upheavals in their own way.

We must live on and always try to be happier

I know exactly how you feel. My grandfather passed away about two years ago. He and I were very close. Similar to you and your uncle. I still think of my grandfather often.

I was in a severe car accident at around the same time you were. I could have died. If there was someone in the passenger seat they would have been severely injured if not dead for sure.

Kingdom of heaven our beloved people...
God bless you good man
and thank you for being!