Masiakasaurus
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Thankfully, my love is seeking help and trying very hard to avoid bad influences. It's hard, though, when your life and location are filled with the people that enable you and the triggers that pushed you into addiction in the first place. For now, I'm just trying to be an encouraging presence. There's a lot of fear involved with loving someone that has been through addiction, something that is hard to understand on the outside. The fear that I won't be strong enough to walk away, to love tough, if she relapses. The fear that trying to support them will lead you to become another enabler, or worse. Someone that they use. The fear that they've come into or are staying in your life because of their the trauma and addiction, that you're not actually helping but in fact hurting their recovery. I have to believe that we're all worthy of being loved in our brokenness, and I do believe we're all broken in a way. So far, I haven't had to deal much with what I'd do if she falters. It's also complicated by the fact that it's almost never just drug addiction. I'm trying to navigate how to love a woman with a sex and love addiction. How can you not be an enabler of that? It's so hard, loving someone, wanting them to change for the better, and yet also not wanting to change them or make them into a different person, regardless. Good Lord do I understand where you've been, RM. You and Chrissy have my thoughts and prayers. There's nothing easy about any of this.
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