Ajax
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Personal responsibility is a tough school to graduate from, sounds like your mum needs to learn some.i know you love your mum, but now her actions may impact on your life that you may start to resent her, and nobody wins that game. I think first and foremost you need to ask some hard questions of yourself, what do you want? how can i help her without getting trapped in her needs? how much can i give without hurting my own prospects? How much poopy am i prepared to put up with? where is the rest of the family? set goals with her, and boundries for yourself.You may have to draw a line in the sand. There are so many variables to this situation and so little information(understandably) that it is hard to see a way clear.You said she was a JW? they tend to be closed ranked. at least the dedicated ones do, you can use this if this is the case with your mum, you can go to her church and speak to the elders, see what they can do to help as they dont like puplic messes. Having a garage sale to get rid of all her failed dreams can be a wake up call to her situation, but it depends on her head space and so many other things that the only advice i can give has to be general. All i know is that when one is approaching a drowning person, you have to know that they will climb over you to save themselves, i think it is a sign of the kind of man your are that you want to help her despite your history you mentioned, just dont let her climb over you. None of this will mean anything if she can't or won't change, you will only have to bail her out again.
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